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Are You A Connector?

September 28th, 2010 by Gail Foley

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Okay, I’ve gotta ask – do you consider yourself a good ‘networker’? You know someone that actually enters a room thinking, who will I meet that I can help today. Not too many of us start out that way because our first instinct and belief in networking is to find new prospects for our opportunity, find new clients and do business all in one meeting. It takes a whole lot of networking before we finally figure out…

That, that my friends, is really NOT networking at it’s finest. Networking is truly, first and foremost about relationship building, connecting and communicating with each other. How many times do you make a list of people you need to meet at say a Chamber of Commerce breakfast? Let’s see, my goal today is to meet an insurance agent, a new Realtor, a financial planner, and a photographer. Now that’s a great list of potential relationships! Because there is a lot of potential for people needing these kinds of services that you can connect people with…and become a ‘connector’!

Imagine this connecting scenario – locally, you meet someone that is thinking about buying a new house, you know a really cool Realtor – connect. The Realtor likes to be connected with a good insurance agent and hers is quitting the business…you know someone – connect. See how this all works, but first and foremost is establishing the relationship. You may have noticed I repeated that – because it’s something we often forget…especially when you go to a new event, have a new product, or are in a new organization.

But wait till you feel the ultimate reward for learning and practicing this ‘improved’ way of networking. How would you feel if you enter a room and people start to seek you out? Why, because you’re good looking, charming and fun to be around – well all that, too, but mostly because your reputation for being a valued connector will make your very popular. When people know you will be able to connect them with someone they need to know you will be sought out. Online it’s the same, only we call it ‘syndicating’, or ‘friend connect or follow me’. Sound familiar?

I think you’ll get what I’m talking about when you watch my video. I did 2 of these at 10 minutes each because I can talk a lot on this subject – but I cut it in half to just give you the basics. Aren’t you glad!!

With a great big smile to connect you and me,

P.S. And as always, I manage to mess up the production so this week’s prize goes to whoever notices what’s missing on this video! A token of prosperity is the gift for this discovery.

Smile Tip #1 – Play Like A Kid!

September 22nd, 2010 by Gail Foley

You do know that life isn’t a dress rehearsal, right? You are aware that when you ‘blink’ half your life has gone by…I only mention this so you understand the value of what I am sharing with you on this post today.

We all do it, everyone that isn’t lazy, is out there, hustling at work and then at home, taking kids to events, being at events, volunteering, participating in all sorts of activities that leave us breathless and stressing over how our lives are so busy! And oh, they are, way too crazy busy! In fact, I sent a friend of mine a book called just that because that was her favorite tune, “I’m just crazy busy!”

Do you remember (some of you will) when they predicted our work week would be just 4 days and we’d have all this luxurious leisure time? Oops, no one predicted the onset of the computer in our lives, or the arrival of FaceBook and Twitter and cell phones, and IPads, and MP3 players, and Skype and on and on. We are so connected today to our devices that rarely do we unplug.

Thankfully, I follow Jack Canfield’s recommendation in his book “The Success Principles”. He suggests that you do not engage in your livelihood for 24 hours once a week. Even if you absolutely love what you do…stop and put it aside for 24 hours. So I do, I shut down from all computer stuff for 24 hours. I do not engage in my passion on Sundays, no conference calls, no meetings…just plain fun and relax time! And on Monday, I’m raring to go…if I work through my weekend, the new week totally limps along!

So my tip for you today, is not just to shut down, but when you do, add some play time in! Play a game today a game you played as a kid! If you played ‘jax’ inside, get down on the floor and see how many you can still grab! Or go outside and jump rope, play hopscotch or tag (of course you’ll need some playmates for some of these!) Shoot some baskets, ride a bike, kick a football, play catch! Just play.

When I sold time share in Virginia (sigh, I miss it so) I always used the old cliche “ Stop And Smell The Roses”. And my first family that joined the resort I was working at in Williamsburg gave me a priceless gift when they came to visit. A beautifully engraved glass mug with an etching of a rose and my name on it…thanking me for helping them do just that.

Seven years later after I moved to be with my kids in Kansas, my time share family from PA and now dear friends, invited me and my husband to spend a week at their condo with them in Williamsburg – it was awesome! And boy did we play and have fun together! So I will forever be reminding people…roses have an awesome fragrance, when was the last time you smelled one?

May you receive a smile in return for yours…it truly is contagious.

Who Do You Appreciate?

September 20th, 2010 by Gail Foley

When was the last time you said to someone that you really appreciate them?  Life is so unbelievably short and we tend to rush through it in a swirl of activity all anchored by our daily routines…never stopping to really relish the people in them or letting them know how much they mean to us.   

It all starts in our personal life and definitely transfers over to our professional life, so when I was trying to figure out what category this particular post fell under, I had one foot in ‘Personal Development’ and one in ‘Relationship Marketing’. I made a consulting call and therefore placed it under Relationship Marketing. However, I have a challenge for you I could use your help me to make the best choice.  

So if you’ll give me your vote after watching it – I’ll have a drawing at the end of the week for a wonderful box of brownies.  Love chocolate, or know someone that does???   No one votes, I’ll appreciate me.

Because did you know that even a couple words of appreciation, a show of gratitude, can impact someone’s life monumentally? When was the last time someone patted you on the back for a job well done? How did that make you feel? How about when someone disrespected you and belittled you and made you feel like a total loser…you can make such a huge difference by putting daily appreciation into your life and thereby extending it into to the lives of those you touch.

We talk about the Law of Attraction a lot and I find personally it is so much fun to attract people into my life that appreciate their friendships and their business partners. When we focus on the good qualities of others and let them know how we feel it all comes back to you. Don’t you think that’s worth taking time to develop a habit of gratitude?

Okay, I ask a lot of questions because they help me think and hopefully it will stir something up for you too!

Please vote on your choice of categories, win some brownies and if you like what I have to say, please share this with all of your connectors…I shall so appreciate it!

With a big smile coming your way,


P.S. If brownies aren’t your thing – maybe you’d appreciate cookies instead :-)

Are You Listening?

September 14th, 2010 by Gail Foley

How about you, are you a true listener, or are you a nodder, faking it till you make it?  I’ve gotta tell you, if you’re a nodder, you might want to ‘listen’ to what I have to share with you.  It’s not easy being an active listener.  What do I mean by active listener?  By re-phrasing back to the speaker what they said to you, to make certain you understand what they are saying.  Active listening means responding to the subject in the conversation and not transitioning away from it.

I have to share a laugh with you here and tell you that my grandson has learned at an early age that women and men definitely communicate differently, so he has devised a way to stay on track with what is being said.  He asks us to please say “transitioning’ and when we do, it’s amazing how much fun and stimulating our conversations become.

Why, is this important? It only is, if you want to really have a relationship with someone, i.e. spouse, child, prospect, client, friend…otherwise not so important.  But ask yourself this…how do you feel when you have someone that actually listens to you?  Personally, and that’s all I can do is give you my viewpoint…I am grateful to be heard.

So, if you’ve listened to me… I’d love to hear from you!  And don’t forget to take a quick moment to share this post on Facebook or Twitter if you got a lot of value out of it!

Passing On A Smile…

P.S.  And speaking of being heard, I have a blooper in my video…it’s very subtle, but definitely there.  So rather than re-record I decided to have fun with this.  If you hear the blooper, please post that in your comment, not where or what, just that you did.  On Friday, I’ll do a drawing from the commenter’s and will personally contact that person to make sure they did indeed identify it and then I’ll send them a Starbucks Gift Card for $5.00!   Worth your time…that’s up to you!

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